Since I’ve been on my own, there have been several milestones: buying a car, adopting cats, selling the house, setting up a new place and now dating!
My first date was Tuesday evening. After all of this talking about dating (and yes, I know I’ve been a big talker), I was finally going on one. To say I was nervous would be the understatement of the decade. I hardly ate and felt nauseous all day. I worried that it would be extremely awkward, that I would blurt out something crazy about my ex or divulge too much info about myself (e.g., I haven’t been on a date in 13 years)! I seriously considered canceling.
However, a few things eased my mind, and/or motivated me:
1. I exchanged phone numbers with my date, AJ, which led to a series of texts. Although texting a stranger was completely foreign, it proved to be a great icebreaker.
2. I had a hard stop. I was meeting friends for a birthday dinner — so there were only 45 minutes between events.
3. I’d have nothing to blog about and that, would disappoint my enormous readership. And I cannot afford to lose any fans!
So I met AJ at a Capitol Hill bar and here’s what happened: he smiled, talked, laughed and bought me drinks. Pretty uneventful…as far as first dates go, it was quite painless. He was truly a decent, nice guy.
Now here are a few interesting tidbits…I asked a lot of questions and he shared quite a bit of information. However, he asked me very few questions, which I didn’t mind since I was so anxious. Also, AJ and I have nothing in common. For example he’s from a small town (moved here recently), hasn’t traveled outside of the US, has older children and doesn’t watch TV. For those of you who know me, you know I’m quite active, but I love entertainment! So the last part was incomprehensible : )
I could tell that he liked me and received confirmation when he texted soon afterward to ask if I’d like to get together again. Even though he’s a good person, I don’t know if we even have enough in common to even be friends. I don’t want to hurt his feelings, but also don’t want to lead him on.
Overall, I have to say that my first date was a good one. One down and many, many more to go!
Julie in Seattle